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hey this is Leo for actualised org and in this video I'm gonna tell you why sometimes I behave like a dick all right so why do I sometimes behave like a dick and what I'm referring to here is sometimes the way that I might respond to a youtube comment or a comment on actualise org or a point that I make might make in one of my videos why do I do it in a dickish way at some points and in not dickish ways and other points so a short story you know Zen masters do you know anything about Zen Zen Buddhism is the Japanese tradition of attaining enlightenment through deep contemplation what basically you sit in you meditate for years until finally you reach enlightenment and this is a very very hardcore practice this is not something done very casually this is something done with a lot of intensity and so what will happen is that a student will go and sign up for Zen and then he will sit there and usually there is a like a Zen master the Guru and he's gonna help you to attain enlightenment and so what you do is you listen to that guru and you do what he said to what he tells you to do and if you do that for many many years eventually maybe you'll get there and one of the things that Zen masters will do is that their students they will sit in a hall and they will just meditate in a in a big group the students will meditate and this isn't master he'll walk around and he'll observe them and he will give them little tidbits instructions some help and the Zen master he is kind of like this stoic quiet figure at least stereotypically he's like this stoic quiet figure who who has a very penetrating penetrating way of showing you what you're doing wrong and in order to crack through towards enlightenment to really make the Zen process work for you what you really have to do is you have to it can be very harsh with their ego right you can't post a foot around sometimes you got to cut straight to the chase and sometimes that's what does that master does is he cuts straight to the chase and sometimes that will that will hurt literally this might hurt physically it might hurt in fact when Zen masters do is they have a stick they walk around with a stick like a bamboo rod and as the students are sitting there in the meditation hall meditating well they meditate for many hours and I don't know if you've ever tried meditation sometimes when you're meditating in your doing for a long time your mind gets tired and you tend to doze off you tend to fall asleep well you're not supposed to do that that ruins your meditation so the Zen master he'll walk around with a bamboo stick and he'll smack people across the back of the head or then back in the shoulders in order to wake them up so the reason I'm saying this is because that's kind of what I'm doing when I'm being a dick if I'm being a dick to you in a comment or I'm being a dick towards your point of view of life the reason I'm doing that is because you're way off course right you're so off course that arguing with you logically is not the best it's not the best way to to help you at that point you need to be kind of shook it up in fact that's that's one of the challenges I have with these videos is in trying to to bring some of this wisdom that that I've accumulated over the years and trying to bring that to you and trying to communicate in an effective way so that it actually takes root in your life so it's not just running around in your head well I need to wake you up some of you need to be woken up and that's that's challenging to do because I only have so much time with you and if I sit here and I'm baby you if we're playing this kindergarten game and I'm trying to be gentle with you and I'm not trying to not to hurt you and I'm trying to soothe your ego then that might feel nice for you and you might lighten you might you might like it and you might like my video for for me doing that except the problem is that you're gonna stay asleep see so many of you are asleep and you don't even know it you don't know that you're asleep and you need to be woken and the only way sometimes to wake someone up is to really shake them right shake them put some fear into them it's a rhetorical approach it's a it's kind of a style of teaching and I don't think that that's always the best approach so sometimes what will happen is sometimes I'll take a very compassionate approach and I hear someone and he or she posts a comment where they're really struggling and I can feel like they're really struggling they're really having a hard time and they're just lost they're lost they're confused so in that kind of situation usually kind of my heart will go out to that person because I can I can relate to that you know I've been there myself I can understand why that's happening with them they don't have the knowledge they don't have the mind says they don't have the experience so with that kind of person I'll be more patient I'll write a long reply I'll try to encourage them and I think that that's great sometimes I see people just behaving in stupid stupid ways like they know better right they know better they're wiser they know what the right course of action is but they're being lazy like they're so lazy they're so plugged into groupthink that they're just like behaving in such ridiculous ways that they need to be shooken up in that kind of situation I'm not gonna take a compassionate compassionate approach with you that's the kind of situation where I take a stick and I hit you over the back of the head so that you understand that what you're doing is totally [ __ ] stupid right and that you need to change and sometimes that's what it takes sometimes it takes nice knock on the back of the head to learn that what you're doing is not right and then you go oh okay I was asleep that whole time okay now I understand I was asleep thank you for waking you up now of course most people don't take it that way most people when you hit them over the back of the head with a stick what do they do then they get mad at you if they start blaming you because their ego doesn't want to admit that they were wrong that's usually the case and you know that's one of the one of the challenges that a true teacher faces is that a true teacher she has to be a little bit ruthless because he can't be gentle some students do not take too gentle handling they need to be roughed up a little bit and and that means the student the teacher needs to do what he has to do and then the student has to react however he reacts and if the student Lee if the student doesn't like the teacher you know well tough luck the fact is that there's specific things that you need to be doing in life in order to live a successful and happy life and if you're not doing those things then you're gonna fail right one of the philosophies that I take with actualised org is that I don't try to [ __ ] you guys I try to be very direct and when there's a clear principle that you're breaking it needs to be made very very clear because one of the challenge that I faced myself through the last five years of learning personal development is that sometimes people or teachers or self-help experts will take a very light handed approach and they'll be very compassionate very be very optimistic and very positive thinking and I'll tell you that you can do anything and that everything is okay and things are gonna be fine and they take that kind of approach and you know sometimes you need that encouragement and I'm all about positive thinking and I'm all about like dreaming and doing all that stuff but your dreams and your positivity needs to be grounded it needs to be grounded in something solid because if all you're doing is you're dreaming and all you're doing is you're you're having wishful thinking and you're thinking positive you think that stuff is just gonna happen for you miraculously then I can guarantee that you're gonna be miserable in life and you're not gonna be at the level of success that you want you're not gonna really be doing solid personal development so part of my job I feel as someone who's working within this field is to show you clearly where where the where the boundaries are right where you are wrong and where you are right because when you know clearly that you're wrong well then it's very easy to not do those things at least you know a lot of times what I found is that when a teachers is is fuzzy about it and he tells you well maybe you're right but maybe you're wrong and then he kind of like carves out these large gray areas maybe that's even technically true that this area is great but the fact is it doesn't help you because your mind is very tricky and it'll use that fact against you and so you'll say oh well that's a gray area so I can just continue to be lazy and I can tell you to be stupid and I can continue to to do all these self-destructive things and not start to kind of wise up and straighten my course so sometimes you just need to be told that you you need to straighten your course because honestly if you roll life being asleep being unconscious doing unwise things then you're not going to transform you're not going to get the kind of results you want from life you're gonna sell yourself very very short and you're not going to self actualize so that is sometimes why I take a heart approach I I'm still trying to work that out you know when to take a soft approach when to take a hard approach sometimes I get that wrong but I'm learning and I learned pretty quick so that's what I had to say about that that's why sometimes if I'm a dick excuse me but I'm trying to do it for your own benefit and I try not to take too much pleasure in it although sometimes I take some pleasure I need to get some pleasure out of this stuff all right so this is Leo I'm signing off go ahead post your comments down below any questions or concerns and go ahead like this share this and come check out actualizado work sign up sign up to my 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